Assignment 2: Sexual Disconnect
James and Yelena have been married for 22 years and have three grown children, now out of the house. Sex was never particularly enjoyable for Yelena, primarily because James was uninterested in much foreplay and Yelena felt it was unfeminine to make any sexual demands of her husband. However, because of her love for James, she accommodated his desire for sex two or three times a week, and consistently â€œfaked orgasms.â€
James also does not think â€œa real manâ€ should receive any â€œhelpâ€ from his wife to get an erection, even when his erections became less firm and less predictable. As a result, over the last two years, James rarely initiated sex and Yelena felt relieved, thinking she would now be â€œexcused from sex.â€ Furthermore, she is in perimenopause, and has begun to experience increasingly uncomfortable penetration. Suddenly, Jamesâ€™ vigor and sexual interest has returned with greater intensity than ever. Yelena discovered he was secretly taking Viagra, which he obtained over the Internet.
- Discuss how effective you think Viagra will be for improving James’ sex life, and why?
- Suppose Yelenaâ€™s discovery that James is using Viagra secretly is the â€œlast strawâ€ for her after years of not addressing her unsatisfying sexual life with him, and she demands that they seek marriage counseling and focus on their sex life.
In this case:
- What part of this dilemma should a counselor point out is Yelenaâ€™s responsibility to acknowledge and address? Additionally, what special issues regarding her perimenopause will need to be addressed?
- What part of this dilemma should a counselor point out is Jamesâ€™ responsibility to acknowledge and address?
- Discuss specific treatment options for this couple that are supported by the research you learned about in your readings.